Wednesday, March 4, 2009

It's been a tough day...

Hi all,

It's been a sad few days around here...we got some terrible news on Saturday night, and we're still trying to process it all, so I thought it would be good for me to share.

Back in December, my sister Andrea and her boyfriend Jamie did an amazing thing by becoming guardians for Jamie's 2 nieces and 1 nephew. There is 10-year old Makayla, 6 year old Matthew and 4 year old Haylee. These kids haven't had an easy life up to this point, but I think they were well on their way to it. Anyone who has ever met my sister knows how much she loves kids...hands down that is evident upon talking to her. And they brought them into their house as if they were their own. Mind you, it's not easy for Jamie and Andrea to try to raise 5 kids (t.here is also my niece, Taylor, and my nephew, JT) in the house, but they were making a go of it. And all of this was happening right before Christmas, but Andrea and Jamie made sure that those kids knew that they were loved, and a part of the family now. They even came to my Aunt's house for Christmas. Sweet kids, they all are. Shy, but that was totally expected, but clearly adjusting well to their new home.

I remember how excited he was at Christmas for his new shoes. They were ALL excited about this...put them on first thing in the morning as soon as they got out of bed. They even tried to sleep with them! But Andrea and Jamie managed to convince them that the shoes would still be there the next day. I remember Joacim telling me that he was having a conversation with Matthew up in his room over Christmas (Matthew was sharing a room with my nephew), and he kept talking about how he wanted to keep his room clean and that JT never helped him. Didn't seem to matter too much to Matthew though...God he's such a sweet, sweet boy.

So, on Saturday night, when the phone rang at 10:30pm, I had that feeling that it wasn't a good call...you know the feeling...and unfortunately I was right. It was Andrea calling to tell us that Matthew had nearly drowned, and was life-lined to Methodist hospital in critical condition.

Here's a link to the newsstory....

Wow, that hits you hard. I mean, I think anyone with a pulse would be affected by it, but I seemed to feel it so much more now that I'm a parent. All these thoughts were racing through my head...couldn't make sense of most of them.

We just got back from visiting Matthew. It's indescribably difficult to see him in that bed, hooked up to all of those machines. He looks so small and fragile laying there...I was almost afraid to touch him. I gave him a kiss on his forehead and whispered to him that I'm praying he gets better. Amazing condition of the human spirit, I guess. Even though the pronosis isn't good, you always want to believe in miracles. But miracles happen every day, so I'm asking for anyone that reads this to pray for one, because he and his family need it.

I haven't had a chance to get to know him very well, and I think I'll always feel a little cheated for that. Time goes by too fast, and you always think that there's a tomorrow. I'm sure Andrea thought the same thing on that fateful day. We had actually spent the afternoon together here at my house. I was helping her study for her Medical Terminology course, and when she left, she was going to go home and figure out what to have for dinner. Rather mundane tasks, but what she wouldn't give right now to be able to have that be the most pressing matter on her mind.

My sister is truly amazing. I don't know how she's keeping it together. She loves him as if he is her own.

The photo on the right is one I had taken over Christmas of Matthew and I wanted to share it with you all...God Bless...little man...

I'm sure I'll have more rambling thoughts, but that's all I can get out sensibly right now. Just please, anyone that has kids or loved ones nearby..hug them a little extra longer tonight..tell 'em you love 'em...

Thanks for listening...

14 comments:

  1. I am so sorry to hear of Matthew's passing. My daughter is in Matthews Kindergarten class and while working at school I was able to meet Matthew. Your family will be in our prayers!

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  2. So sorry for your loss. My daughter is a Kindergarten student at Matthew's school. We never had the honor of meeting Matthew, but we will be praying for your family.

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  3. I am so sad to hear about Matthew's passing. My son is a second grader at his school. Monday night, after receiving an email from the pricipal, my son wanted to pray for Matthew. He asked God to watch over him and make him better. He has prayed every night this week and said last night that "God will take care of him". And Praise God...HE will. My heart goes out to all of the family. May the Lord's loving arms wrap around you in this delicate time.

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  4. I am so sorry for your loss. Andrea is a very caring and loving person. I will be praying for Andrea and Matthew's family.

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  5. We are so sorry for your loss. We heard the news through the principal at Thorpe Creek where my two children attend. Our hearts go out to you. We will be praying for the family.

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  6. My heart goes out to you in this time of sympathy. I cannot say anything to change your life and the outcome from this horrible accident, but your story has changed my life forever. I again am so sorry for the loss of your son. He is now an angel to watch over many children.

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  7. We are so very sorry for your loss. We are friends of Stacy D and she is calling on her friends to pray for your family. Please know that there are so many that care for your family and that will be praying for you. God Bless.

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  8. Iam very thankful to meet Andrea and Jamie they are wonderful people i havent ever met anyone like them in my life and they are taking very good care of my nieces and nephews and my heart goes out to all of you god bless you and i love all of you. I am here for all of you if you ever need anything you can call on me i am there for all of you. EVERYONE IS IN MY THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS

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  9. God Bless Andrea and Jamie for bringing them into our lives.

    We want to thank every one for their thoughts and support in this difficult time.

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  10. Andrea I am so sorry to hear this. I didn't realize you were realated until I saw the obituary and by what I have read on here, you were more than just an aunt. You are a special person, and you made him feel loved when he needed it most. I am praying for you and your family to make it through this.
    Your Friend
    Amanda Stone

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  11. I not even sure where to being! My heart goes out to everyone that loved Matthew. I didnt get to know my nephew for as long as the other family but he was such a precious little boy full of love. To Matt and Michelle my heart goes to the both of you I cant imagine how it fills to lose a child but I know the love of a child and I pray that NONE of us ever have to goe thru this again. To Jamie and Andrea I cant say enough how AMAZING the two of you are for taking on these children. You both are REMARKABLE and I know that you will be REWARDED!! I am very thankful that I got to met all the family, it's a shame why we all had to come together, but I am greatful for that. Your in my thoughts and my prayers! God Bless!

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  12. Jamie & Andrea,

    Our kids go to FCE too. They & we are praying for you both. Specifically for "the peace that surpasses understanding" as you try to make sense of it all. It is un-imagineable to me your pain but my sincerest hope is that you will trust God through this in a way you never before have! His word is full of his love & hopes for us & you can believe he will use this for good - He is loving & just & sovereign over all creation. Please be encouraged by your "future hope" in Jesus & reunion w/Matthew one day. We also thought this similar story would offer you comfort: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w_i8s_mfgGA,
    http://www.christianitytoday.com/music/news/2008/sccfamily.html

    Love always,
    the Hamm family

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  13. We are all praying for you both as your story has touched us deeply. Our kids also go to FCE. We will continue to pray for the "peace that surpasses understanding" and that you will feel Gods comfort.

    Jesus is preparing a place for those who love him & you can trust that Matthew is there in his perfect & Holy place right now!

    We hope this story comforts you as well:http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w_i8s_mfgGA
    http://www.tennessean.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=200990129031

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  14. I am a friend of Michelle and Matt and the kids.. I have known them for almost 2 yrs now and I remember the first time I meet matthrew.. It was in linden and he came over with his mommy so I could meet him. He was so nice and polite. He later that day came over to play with my daughter and I remember him walking up to me and saying can I rerange ur house? Lol I though um ok.. so he sat there a min and then told me how he was going to do it and not much later he had it done and it was done the way he said he would do it.. He was always so nice and fun to be around such a great little boy. I just want michelle and matt to know that they were blessed with a beautiful,smart,carring,loving little man and I am so sorry for there loss and I cant imagine the pain there going threw and as hard as it must be I just hope u can always remember the good times u had with him and remember he was and still is loved by man and will be greatly missed. Sometimes things happen and we dont understan why and this is one. But I know he is okay and one day we will see him again.. Just keep ur head up shell and matt and know he loves u and know u were blessedd!

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